Why is it so hard for us to care for ourselves?
First, a belated Happy Mother’s Day 💖
I hope somewhere in the middle of caring for everyone else…
you were also able to receive a little care yourself.
Ironically, one of my own acts of self-care this week was allowing myself to sit with the discomfort of not meeting a self-imposed deadline around promoting myself for Mother’s Day.
In the past, I’ve always pushed through.
Worked harder.
Done more.
Made sure everything got out “on time.”
And this year… I couldn’t.
Or maybe more honestly:
I chose not to force myself to.
Even though a part of me kept saying:
“You’re behind.”
“You should be doing more.”
“You’re missing the window.”
Instead, I allowed myself to pause.
And honestly? That discomfort was real.
But I’m realizing more and more that self-care is not always the obvious things.
Sometimes self-care is:
💖 not abandoning yourself to meet expectations
💖 allowing yourself to rest
💖 not forcing productivity at the expense of your wellbeing
So if you were waiting for a Mother’s Day promotion from me and didn’t see one — thank you for your patience as I continue learning what it means to prioritize myself too.
And as always, if you’ve participated in one of my previous offers and are interested in moving forward, I’m happy to honor those prior rates for those who reach out (coupon code for Mother’s Day).
My kid making me laugh at the playground.. finally walked there for the first time his year.
I’ve been noticing something…
How easy it is for so many of us to care for everyone else.
We schedule the appointments.
We research the specialists.
We sign our kids up for sports, tutoring, camps, art classes, therapies, enrichment, support.
We invest in the people we love without hesitation.
But when it comes to ourselves?
We delay.
We minimize.
We say:
“I’m fine.”
“I’ll do it later.”
“It’s not that bad.”
“I don’t really need it.”
And I’ve been sitting with this question:
Why?
Why is it so much easier to care for others than it is to care for ourselves?
Why do so many women struggle to spend time, energy, or money on themselves… while pouring endlessly into everyone around them?
And I don’t think it’s actually about time.
Or logistics.
Or even money.
I think, for many of us, it goes deeper than that.
I think somewhere along the way, many of us learned:
• our needs come last
• rest has to be earned
• everyone else matters more
• we should be able to “handle it”
• pushing through is strength
And over time, that becomes normal.
So normal that we stop even noticing it.
This bird came to visit
I had a conversation recently with a parent who was fully ready to seek support for her child who was struggling…
but when the conversation turned toward her own wellbeing, her response was immediate:
“Oh, I’m fine.”
And I realized how often we say that.
How often we override ourselves.
How often we keep going.
How often we quietly carry things alone while convincing ourselves it’s “not a big deal.”
But maybe the question isn’t:
“Do I need care badly enough?”
Maybe the question is:
“Why do I believe everyone else deserves care before I do?”
That one hit me deeply.
Because true self-care is not just massages and bubble baths.
It’s learning to believe:
💖 I matter too.
And honestly?
I think many of us are still learning that.
This summer inside The Village, our focus is SELF. Our last gathering introduced the topic, now we integrate.
Not self-improvement.
Not productivity.
Not becoming “better.”
But reconnecting with ourselves again.
Learning how to slow down.
Listen inward.
Restore.
Regulate.
And receive support ourselves.
Over the next few gatherings, I’ll be bringing in guest speakers who will help us explore different ways we can care for ourselves more intentionally — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Our next Village gathering will focus on something foundational:
✨ Gut Health
Because our nervous systems, energy, emotions, inflammation, stress, and overall wellbeing are all deeply connected.
And maybe caring for ourselves isn’t selfish.
Maybe it’s necessary.
Maybe the future we want for our children begins with finally believing we matter too.
📅 May 16th, 2026, 8am PST
💻 Free gathering
If this resonates, I’d love to have you join us 💖
With you,
Priyanka
Wayfinding Moms
P.S.
One of the biggest things I’m learning lately is this:
The way we care for ourselves becomes the blueprint our children inherit.
If they only ever see us depleted…
pushing through…
ignoring our own needs…
they learn that love means self-abandonment.
But when they see us caring for ourselves with compassion…
they learn they are worthy of care too.