What if nothing is wrong with you?
Lately, I’ve been sitting with something that’s been quietly shifting how I see myself…
For most of my life, I’ve been very good at pushing through.
In medicine, that was the expectation.
Keep going.
Override your body.
Ignore the noise.
And honestly… I got really good at it.
But recently, something has been softening.
Not because I decided to slow down.
But because I didn’t have a choice.
This winter, being sick forced me into a kind of pause I wasn’t used to.
And in that space, I noticed something.
There was a part of me that was frustrated.
A part that wanted to get back to normal.
A part that felt like I was falling behind.
And my instinct… was to run from it
To push it away.
To override it by drowning it out
Doom scrolling or streaming.
What if… that part wasn’t the problem?
I came across a passage from Dr. Richard Schwartz, the founder of Internal Family Systems, that stopped me:
He describes our emotions — like anger — as if they were a child we are caring for.
Imagine that the child is having tantrums.
And instead of understanding them…
We criticize them.
We shut them away.
We try to control them so they don’t embarrass us.
And what happens?
The tantrums get worse.
Not because the child is bad.
But because they feel unseen, unheard… unwanted.
Isn’t that exactly how many of us treat parts of ourselves?
We push away fear.
We suppress anxiety.
We run away from grief.
We turn away from them, shove them deep, lock them away..
Hoping they’ll quiet down
But they don’t.
They get louder.
And what I’m learning now is this:
It’s not about giving in to those parts.
It’s about changing how we relate to them.
Instead of fighting…
What if we listened?
What if we got curious?
What if we said:
Thank you, fear, for trying to protect me.
Thank you, anxiety, for reminding me that this matters.
Thank you, frustration, for showing me something needs attention.
This isn’t about agreeing with every reaction.
It’s about acknowledging that something inside us is trying to help.
And when we meet those parts with curiosity instead of criticism…
something shifts.
The nervous system softens.
The intensity decreases.
And we create just enough space…
to choose how we want to respond.
This is exactly what we’re going to explore together in The Village this Saturday.
We’ll be stepping into:
Understanding some of the different parts within us
Noticing the ones that take over when we feel triggered
And beginning to relate to them with curiosity instead of fear
Because none of these parts need to be hidden away. They need to be seen.
📅 Saturday, March 21st | 8am PST
💖 Free gathering
👉 Register for the Zoom link
If this resonates, I’d love for you to join us.
We don’t have to keep fighting ourselves.
We can learn to understand ourselves… together.
With you,
Priyanka
P.S.
As I’ve been sitting with this work, I keep coming back to that image of the angry child.
Because the way we often relate to our own emotions…
It is not so different from how we sometimes respond to our children’s tantrums.
We try to quiet them.
We try to fix them.
We try to move past them as quickly as possible.
And when that doesn’t work, it can feel overwhelming.
But what if those moments — in them and in us — are not problems to solve…
But parts asking to be seen?
The more I learn to sit with my own parts with curiosity and compassion,
The more I’m able to show up differently for my child.
More patient.
More grounded.
More understanding.
Because in many ways, this work is about learning to parent ourselves first.
And from that place… everything begins to shift.
This is the deeper work we step into inside my 12-week Transformational Parenting Program — not just learning how to parent our children differently,
but learning how to relate to ourselves differently.
If that feels like the next step for you, I’d love to connect 💖
You can book a free 30-minute clarity call to explore it together.